1. “Not like that.” “It’s not very sexy or encouraging to be told our skills are subpar in the heat of the moment,” says Amy Levine, sex coach. “You should always frame it in the positive by talking about what you do like. Also avoid: “What are you doing?!”
2. “My ex used to love it when I…” All women are different. Besides, who’s to say that the previous women didn’t fake their pleasure just to get you to finish quicker?” ZING! Aside from that, talking about your prior sexual encounters can make her feel threatened and jealous. Does she really need to hear about it? For a lot of women, that’s a dealbreaker. Also avoid: “Let’s try this position that I did one time with…”
3. “I have to be out of here by 4:00.” Making allusions to the idea that you don’t have much time to work with is a major mood-downer. At least wait until afterward! Also avoid: “I need to wake up early tomorrow, so I need to go soon.”
4. “I wish you had more ass to grab!” Here’s a newsflash: Women can feel insecure, especially when they’re naked and most vulnerable. Pointing out things about other women’s bodies that you like, particularly ones that highlight what your partner doesn’t have, is a big no-no. Anything that’s going to make a woman self-conscious is a female-libido kill. Also avoid: “What’s that weird, strange red thing on your …?”
5. “Did you come yet?” Stop asking if she came or saying that you want to see her come. That puts way too much pressure on her. If she did climax, she may choose to say so or not. Also avoid: “Are you going to come soon? or “Come on, Come for me, come for me, come for me.”
What’s important to remember is to simply enjoy the moments together without putting added pressure on either of you.
Happy sex play! 🙂